When you notice that you're both fighting like your parents did, you are behaving according to nature. There are some vital skills to develop if you want to have a different kind of relationship.Being able to have a fair fight is high on the list. This is a basic idea, shared by most communications programs. ("I feel like you're an idiot" is not an "I" statement.) 2. Many people get so excited by their own thoughts that they can't wait to express them, even when their partner is in the middle of a sentence. Take the time to listen to what your partner is saying.Fortunately, there are some simple rules that anyone can practice. It comes from the fact that you can only speak your own truth Reading the other person's mind is just not possible. I've observed people break in when the other takes a breath and then try to excuse their rudeness by saying, "But I thought you had finished! When you're in the heat of the moment, this is understandable, but it tends to get you nowhere in the argument. The more people I work with, the more I realize how hard real listening is.
Whether you’re dying to hear what’s going on at your old stomping ground or hoping to get a stellar recommendation, staying in contact with old bosses is absolutely imperative.
However, there is a fine line between keeping in touch and being that intern. Rule 1: Never underestimate the power of networking If the internship is already on your resume, why do you need to reconnect with them?
Believe it or not, touching base with your employers after your internship is possibly just as important as the internship itself.
Listening is the only thing that can actually bring us to understanding. "Mirror" means just that: repeat back to your partner what you heard her say.
If she agrees that you've "got" it, you're golden.
It's surprising, though, how often what you hear is not — or not exactly — what your partner has just said. Internships may come and go, but – if you let them – the connections you make can last a lifetime.The next time you go head-to-head with each other on big issues, follow these rules. If you want to be a doctor, you spend countless hours studying medicine.If you want to be a lawyer, you spend years of your life in law school.But the most important thing in our lives — our relationships — are just supposed to "come naturally." What "naturally" means is what we grew up with.If you behave "naturally," you'll get a relationship very similar to your parents' marriage.