As this behavior progresses the situation will worsen, and the abuser may assume all control of finances or prevent the victim from coming and going freely.
A victim often has known or dated the abuser for a brief period of time before getting engaged or living together.
If you are not from the Midcoast Maine area, here are some resources that may be of help to you: the Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence at 1-866-83-4HELP or via the web at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233 or via the web at
The following is a list of behaviors that may indicate a potential batterer.
It is not the purpose of the listing to imply that every person with some of these attributes is a batterer or potential batterer.
Recognizing an Abusive Personality Identifying Abuse Leaving an Abusive Relationship Community Q&A A relationship can be abusive in many ways, but ultimately, abuse boils down to power and control.
A relationship is abusive when one partner uses any type of violence, whether it is physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological, to influence or control the other partner.
If you believe you are in an abusive relationship, seek immediate help, such as by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.You can also learn how to identify the warning signs of an abusive relationship.At the start of the relationship, an abuser will equate jealously with love.The abuser will question the victim about who the victim talks to, accuse the victim of flirting, or become jealous of time spent with others.The abuser may call the victim frequently during the day, drop by unexpectedly, refuse to let the victim work, check the car mileage, or ask friends to watch the victim.In the beginning an abuser will attribute controlling behavior to concern for the victim (for example, the victim's safety or decision-making skills).