On a logical level this may not drive a child to say to you, “Mom, I don’t want you dating,” but their behavior may reveal a subconscious attempt to sabotage your efforts.
They may come up with odd objections, or being unwilling to help you make the time and resources to date.
You share that you’re finally dating and they stare with a look of terror. If you can just make it through the terrible two’s, the confused tween years, the rebellious teen years, and the college debt, you’ll end up with a loving, hassle-free relationship to last the rest of your days – the conventional thinking goes.
We’ve put together a guide to help you deal with your children’s issue and find a loving relationship.
Certainly many parent-child relationships mature into a friendship of equals.
Sometimes, however, grown children create a new set of issues trying to parent their parent, and nowhere does this create more problems than when the parent starts to date.
This guide can help older daters get a better handle on their new romantic life and their adult children.
If you’re dealing with a disapproving adult child, it always helps to understand where their concern is coming from.Perhaps you lost your spouse to an illness or your marriage ended in divorce.To your children, just the idea that you’re single and thinking about a new relationship can be depressing and hurtful.It is natural to idealize the relationship between your parents, and adult children often object to the “replacement” of their father or mother.In fact, some adult children will quietly endure a dating relationship and speak out only when a marriage proposal is revealed.The idea being that dating is one thing, but MARRIAGE feels like an official replacement of their parent.