It’s even better if you bring a prop related to one of your hobbies, which allows you to easily display value. Sample opener: “Excuse me, you seem really into your book. ” This simple line will open her over 80% of the time. Instead, talk about the initial prop for at least two minutes until moving onto more personal topics.
Even in crowded coffee shops, it’s unlikely you’ll be able to do more than two approaches per hour. Come up with “elderly” openers related to what she’s doing. I really wish I could find a coffee shop like that here.” If she’s curious, she’ll make a comment about Italy or travel. Make the conversation more playful by wondering if she’s half-German. Understand that girls can’t handle cockiness during the day like they can at night. The most seamless way to do is to ask where she usually hangs out.
If she likes you, she’ll outright ask about your trip. After she asks you a personal question (it can be as simple as “What is your name? After her answer, ask if she wants to hang out with you for a drink.
Sometimes it takes three or more of these big bait drops until a girl asks you a personal question. If you got this far, she will almost always give you the digits.
One problem you’ll face is numbers that don’t go anywhere.
Find the cutest girl in the room and ask if you can share her table.
Your best bet is to visit coffee shops so crowded that all tables are taken.
If there isn’t a crowded coffee shop near you, sit at a table where a lot of people have to pass by on their way out. Bring an interesting prop that helps with conversation. Simply say “Excuse me” and then ask a question related to her prop.
Even when I’m working on my laptop, I carry an interesting book (or e-reader) that I can use if a conversation develops. Keep it easier on yourself by focusing on props that you can talk about. A reason why coffee shops are so easy to approach is that girls always have props (even if she’s playing a game on her cell phone, your opener can be if it’s a fun game or not). If the girl is not seated near you, you’ll have to say it as she walks by your table or when you walk by hers (on the way to the bathroom, for example). If you asked her about a pen she’s writing with, and then 30 seconds later you ask where she’s from, the girl will feel like you’re “hitting” on her and then clam up.
The easiest way to fix that is to prolong your conversations to a minimum of 15 minutes. My day game book, Day Bang, is 75,000 words, with 26 pages alone on coffee shop approaching and an additional 68 pages on approaching, conversing, dropping big bait, and closing.
While you can get a number after only a few minutes, those are unlikely to lead to a date. In conclusion, open on a neutral prop that you talk about for at least two minutes. If you want more details on how to pick up women during the day, click here to learn more about my book.
Drop big bait until she asks a personal question, then get to know her with both playful and serious questions.