Instinctively, most of you would go for the obvious answer: wrong.
I can guarantee you that once he gets his second wife he will soon lose interest in her and then move onto the third then fourth wife.
And if he gets fed up with all four then he can get rid of them and get four more in their place. It’s the same as drinking: not everyone can handle a drink or two.
I, in no way, support the notion of having a man marry four women at the same time.
She said that she doesn’t feel guilty dating those men, and that it is a really nice feeling to have all their attention since their wife is not getting any of it, so all their focus is on her.
Her explanation made sense to me up until she said that all his attention went to her instead of his wife, which brings me to my next point: her reasoning for dating a married man was now invalid by the fact that this married man gives all his attention to her and not his wife.
Now, as I mentioned earlier the only way you’re allowed to have four wives is if you’re able to equally take care of them all.
Well, this just proves that some are incapable of doing so, therefore dating other women while married would be wrong.
In fact, she wears the head scarf, prays five times a day, and has sound morals and family values.
So I asked myself: “How can someone of her description think it isn’t wrong to date a married man? And I must admit that I wasn’t prepared for what she was about to say.
But what I wasn’t prepared for even more is to actually feel that her explanation made sense.“Men are allowed to marry four women in Islam so technically he’s not cheating on his wife (as long as he’s not having sex with the other woman), this is like him trying to pick out a new wife,” she said.
If you believe in this perspective of Islam which allows a man to have four wives as long as he can treat them all equally on all levels, then you’re very likely to agree with the above quote.