Some guys want it several times a day no matter what, especially early on.
But most of us benefit from the opportunity to do a couple of trial runs. In contrast, his neatness was always a pleasant surprise to me, like elves had come in during the night and done all the work.
One helpful thing about the current SMP is that red flags are everywhere! I had to become a neat person, it seemed like the right thing to do.
Assuming you don’t grow immune to acts of douchebaggery, a young woman can learn a lot about who not to date, just by observing others. When you do date someone who makes it through the character filter, you’ll learn a lot about loving, compromising, resolving conflict and what you need and want in a mate. My husband is neater than I am, but on a scale of 1-10 I get a solid 7.5 for neatness nowadays. I love pillow talk and mushy moments and romantic gestures. I am also a sucker for glimpses of the boy he once was.
Here are the best lessons I learned while seriously dating men I didn’t marry, in no particular order. And when there’s conflict I want to resolve it quickly by talking it through. I remember one boyfriend broke his arm, and for some reason I thought he looked so hot with that cast.
It was like looking at a 7th grade version of him or something. I also fall to pieces when I see a guy’s boyhood bedroom.
As long as two people are open to new things and invested in pleasing one another, I think We like to joke that guys want sex all the time, but they do vary.
Some guys aren’t up for it when they have a lot on their mind.
I promised a post on the important things I learned from dating men before I met my husband.
Most importantly, I learned I didn’t want to marry them. One of the problems with hookup culture is that very few people are getting a chance to do relationships with training wheels.
As we saw in the previous post, during the era when people went steady they were essentially “playing house” as a pretend married couple.
If and when those relationships ended, both parties walked away with a set of experiences and hopefully, lessons learned.