When you meet someone in person, at a party, a bar, a casual gathering, a conference, wherever. You go on if youre physically attracted first or at least not repulsed, then you go on various personality traits, whether the conversation is good which usually happens to be based on both conversation skills and chemistry.
Online though people poor through the profile and look for any tiny reason to reject someone. You think, I dont hike much so they probably wont like me and dont bother to write even though its likely they hike less than once a year.
I dont think they really realize theyre doing it but they do. Youre not overweight but you dont consider yourself fit so you dont contact. Their profile says they want someone who goes to the gym regularly yet they are unlikely to even consider that topic meeting someone live.
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The #1 reason online dating sites dont work is because its too easy to be super picky.
Plus, about 2/3 of the men are only really interested in about 1/3 of the women, so it is skewed even further.
The #1 reason online dating sites don’t work is because it’s too easy to be super picky.When you meet someone in person, at a party, a bar, a casual gathering, a conference, wherever. You go on if you’re physically attracted first or at least not repulsed, then you go on various personality traits, whether the conversation is good which usually happens to be based on both conversation skills and chemistry. But I think the problem is not that people post old pictures or pictures that are too beautiful. Many people who you’d find relatively attractive look horrible in their pictures.They write liberal and you think hippy and dont write. But I think the problem is not that people post old pictures or pictures that are too beautiful. Many people who youd find relatively attractive look horrible in their pictures.I dont know what the solution is but the solution is NOT rejecting more people based on their criteria. #2 might be too many AHOLE men just looking for sex. Ill bet you see tons of fairly attractive people in the real world how have poor pictures online. It would add new problems like lighting, sound, interview skills, etc but it might at least solve the photo problem.The solution has to involve some other way to get people talking and meeting easier without all the superficial criteria that would never filter people in real life. Another problem may be that on many sites, the male/female ratio is just horribly skewed.I have read that on some sites, even some of the most popular ones, men can outnumber women by as much as 5 to 1.