In search of clarity, we set out on a mission to look beyond the loaded monikers and dubious hype surrounding older woman/younger man relationships.
Why is it still such a sensational topic and what are the perks (and pitfalls) of entering into partnership where age knows no bounds?
It’s been eight years since famously proclaimed 2009 as the year of the cougar.
I’m having trouble breathing even saying this.” Then he grabbed my hand and said, “I love you.” Now mind you, we tell each other we love each other regularly.
There’s been an enormous amount of media coverage centred on older women dating younger men over the last decade.
However, what’s actually going on underneath the pop-style commentary and tabloid tales of ‘cougars’ and their ‘cubs’?
have stumbled upon a dating conundrum that I cannot figure out on my own.
I don’t need to consult an advice columnist, or my friends or therapist.
I need to hear from the people of the world at large who have and have practical pearls of wisdom to bestow upon me. He has a history of pushing women away when they get close to him. So here’s the dilemma: The other night I was out with some friends … Here’s what you should know: This dinner bunch is a tight circle of friends. I know this because we’ve talked about it extensively. The closest I’ve come is when I accidentally had sex with a guy friend of mine while drunk. We work in the same field and our bond is not only personal, it’s professional. I witnessed it in action with the last girl he dated. And then, this was the thing he said that stumped me: “We’re such great friends and I think we would be such a great couple, but I can’t figure out how we get from one to the other.” That shut me up. Trust me, I have faced more than my fair share of dating dilemmas in my love life, and I’ve usually known (or at least been able to eventually figure out) how to handle them. One of the members of this group is a guy that has been a close friend of mine for the last two years. When he declared his feelings, or attraction, or whatever, he followed that up immediately by saying that he was afraid that he would hurt me or let me down in some way. I have always sensed some attraction on both of our ends at different times throughout our friendship, but neither of us have ever acted on it at all. Over the past couple of years, we’ve become really, really close, sharing stuff about our families, dating lives, professional lives and personal lives. Besides both of our reservations, which we discussed, there are other things at stake here: Our friendship (which is really important to me), our group of friends (we all know how quickly things could get awkward if something goes wrong), our professional connection (I take my career seriously and so does he), and my heart (which I don’t want broken … When we had finished the kiss/discussion of reservations, we both had no idea what to do next. This guy probably knows more about me than most of my closest friends. Two of our friends took off and the third got up to use the restroom. I know that on occasion, people go from being friends to more than friends.