The alternative is finding ways to maintain the spark, despite the hundreds or even thousands of miles that make sex a special occasion kind of thing.
We were planning to meet, but before it happened, one day during our Skype conversation, he started to say things that stirred up our emotions. He said this was natural, but later because I could not go on, we prayed together and asked forgiveness from God and each other. By the way, he stopped contacting me after a while. Dear Reader, I'm shocked and saddened by your letter, but I'm not surprised. I'm grieved by your sin because it separates you from God.
I'm saddened by the reminder that our enemy has made sexual sin so cut-off from relationship that we're not even sure it is sex.
And I'm emboldened to answer because the convenience of the internet and the prevalence of online dating coupled with the ubiquity of high-speed Internet convinces me that you're not the only one doing this.
First a few observations: You describe the man you met online as wonderful and godly.
His behavior — leading you into sexual sin, defending that sin as natural, then leaving you after getting what he was after — is neither wonderful, nor godly.
Scripture is clear that the sexually immoral will not inherit the kingdom of God.(More on that in a minute.) It's more accurate to say you met a man whom you was wonderful and godly.Sadly, it's a lot easier to mislead and be misled about things like character and commitment to Christ when your only contact is online.That's even more true and likely when the relationship progresses quickly and without any accountability or input from people you know in real life.Just because a matching site has "Christian" in the title is no guarantee that it will only supply Christian leads and only lead to God-honoring relationships. But for anyone who knows what the Bible says about sin, it isn't surprising.You must be on your guard and measure everything, and everyone, against Scripture. God tells us that "no temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man" (1 Corinthians a).