It’s this experience, however, that has enabled me to figure out what the hell I am doing, and I wish to share some of my tips and tricks with you.
It almost doesn’t matter what information you write in your profile as long as you are conveying sincerity and vulnerability.
The best way to demonstrate sincerity is to write your main bio in a loose conversational manner without trying to “big” yourself up.
This isn’t a CV; you aren’t auditioning for anyone, so don’t write it like you are trying to impress. Don’t be afraid of telling people who you are and what you love doing.
Online dating is the greatest invention the world has ever seen. You browse profiles, find someone you like and start a conversation.
With any luck they will like you back and you can look forward to a new life of love, romance and passionate lovemaking. In reality, it’s like that game at the fun fair where you have to shoot a row of ducks but nobody ever seems to be able to hit the target.
Fixed or not, it’s frustrating, and unless you’re a crack Marine Corps sniper, you will often go home empty handed. As a “veteran” of over 60 internet dates and nearly 10 years of negotiating my way through the many, many websites out there, I know firsthand how arduous and frustrating it can be.
I’ve made countless errors, put up stupid pictures, sent even stupider messages and had “sure things” vanish into thin air.
Have you ever deleted an opening message based solely on the thumbnail image?
I think everyone has at some point, and imagine how often you would do this if you received 20-50 a day instead of 1 or 2 a week. Most attractive women don’t even open all of their messages simply because they can’t be bothered to sift through them all.
You have to assume that a quick glance at the thumbnails is all she is going to use to decide whether to open the message, so if your main image isn’t the single best photo you own then you are doing yourself a disservice.
No cheesy topless shots, no stuffy formal pictures and no Myspace style self-portraits either—you want a picture that shows you are a relaxed, fun person who has an active social life.