Communication involves the collaboration of two people as they share and examine all of their perceptions, feelings, ideas and thoughts to come to an accurate understanding of what is happening.
Without this skill, a person is handicapped in an intimate relationship.
Without being able to express themselves and listen to another, partners cannot achieve intimacy.
By developing your communication skills, you and your partner will be able to establish and preserve a loving, respectful relationship between two people who love each other.
One of the biggest problems in communicating is that most couples have a basic misconception of what the purpose of communication is.
Rule #1 to follow when going into a conversation with your partner: unilaterally disarm. You are not going into a battle that you have to win.
This is not to say that you are will have to compromise or capitulate.
This is not to say that you can’t be angry, frustrated or provoked.
Most approach talking with a partner as a debate in which each presents a preconceived version of the reality of what is going on between the two partners.
The fault with this approach is the mistaken assumption that either partner can go into the conversation with an accurate perception of reality.