So, instead, grab a free app like Insight Timer, or just sit and calm yourself. Tell yourself you're going to have only ten (or twenty) minutes to do nothing, and that you can come back to whatever you need to attend to when you're done.
Instead, it places blame, creates anger and induces anxiety, none of which are conducive to your goal of a healthy relationship.
As well, you need to diagnose the problem so as to troubleshoot, accept responsibility, and fix it. Like healthy relationships, bad relationships are born, fed and nurtured into becoming what they are. I suggest doing a meditation to get yourself focused and seeing things clearly.
Related: Couples Communication Skills Quiz, Test Your Relationship Chemistry So, what can you do instead? Therefore, in order to fix a "bad" relationship, you must first look at how you've contributed to the problem as well as accept responsibility for your actions, intentional or otherwise. When we're in the throes of a difficult partnership, it's tricky to just sit down and *poof* get an answer.
Not what the two of you need to do, or even what your partner should do.
Essentially, fixing a bad relationship means reconnecting with yourself.
When asked, few people can explain what's wrong with their relationship.They can explain in great detail what has happened, and who has done what to whom, however!By Bonny Albo No one wants to be in a bad relationship, but few of us are given the tools to fix relationships that aren't working.What follows is an in-depth but extremely effective way creating a healthy relationship, one step at a time.Whether the two of you are on the verge of breaking up, or if you just feel something is amiss and needs to be looked at further, the words that follow are meant to get you out of your rut and have you enjoying your relationship again.However, healing your relationship means that you'll have to review how you've contributed to the problem - and what need to to do fix it.