Let's start with the bad news: You're on the road to divorce.
After all, even the most amicable divorce is still a divorce, and it's human nature to feel angry, sad and disappointed -- and sometimes, all three at the same time.
• Be aware that there is a possibility that your dating behavior during divorce could affect custody and parenting issues.
Your children haven't achieved finality and closure of the divorce, and putting a new person in their life right now isn't recommended by child psychologists.
In light of these experiences, here's my compassionate and informed advice if you're thinking about jumping back into the dating scene, and perhaps even if you hear wedding bells ringing in your near future:• If you've started your divorce process, honestly evaluate how your separation or divorce is going. Further, consider how your spouse may react when he or she finds out you're dating.
Is that going to add fuel to a highly contested divorce?
More than likely, the answer is "yes."• If you haven't started your divorce process, then it's important that you know what the road ahead looks like -- so you can prepare yourself and focus on the outcome you want.
You also need to be aware that the process can be time consuming and, at times, exhaustive and difficult.
While it may indeed be true that "all's fair in love," a little common sense doesn't hurt either.
And while I'd never want to throw cold water on a budding romance, I have some words of wisdom that I'd like to share.